Thursday, June 25, 2015

You are no more Important than the Person Sitting Next to You

Sometimes it’s really hard to focus on the good when there is so much bad happening all around us. Nothing worth giving two cents about is occurring. It’s all going in one ear and coming out the other. Headlines are dripping with negativity, your friends are blowing you off, and that guy you’ve been talking to just started talking to some other tall blonde girl, that just so happens to live two doors down from you. Nothing seems to come with an explanation anymore. It’s become more severe than just “we stopped talking and I have no clue as to why”. People do bad things because they can get away with it. Detachment from people is easier than sticking around. Everyone is temporary, even family in certain circumstances. All because it’s seared into our brains that we don’t need anybody who doesn’t need us. Being single makes you strong and independent. Having the ability to stand alone makes you solitary and influential. Strength in numbers has dissipated and fallen to the way-side. Nobody gives a passing glance to the people around them. We’re absorbed in this unenthusiastic world where popularity is more important than individuality. Beauty is more important than substance. Individuals are more concerned with how much money they have in their hand rather than whose hand they could be holding. The brand on the tag of your shirt holds more significance than the brand you create for yourself. Your attributes are worthless unless your body is flawless. Your ideas are unimportant unless you hold a place of importance in society. Your integrity isn’t about who you’re there for anymore, it’s all about who you know. Morality is now more a concept of who’s on top rather than who could be the better person.

Everything is messed up.

We can’t push people away because we believe we’re better off on our own. We can’t wipe our schedules clear of lunch dates and cocktail parties all because relationships seem so superficial. We can’t push people away because we want to be noticed for being solitary. Things don’t work like that. People don’t work like that. We need human interaction in order to be healthy and happy. We need people to lift us up; we can’t always do that ourselves. It’s impossible for someone to be completely self-reliant.

So let’s get over it.

Let’s make up our differences with the people around us and start leaning on each other again. Lets take off our suits of armor made up of hurtful words and pride and start bridging the gaps that we unknowingly formed with each other. If we can start to realize again the importance of human contact, I think we’ll all be a whole lot better off.

Never again should we push the ones away that could help push us to be better individuals. How can we build on our own character when we don’t have others’ to base off of? We can’t improve or grow unless we have the influence of improvers and growers in front of us.  We cannot follow by example if we avoid the examples all together. What’s the fun of seeing all the captivating sights in this world if we can’t share them with someone else? We’re not useless on our own, but we’re more useful with the uphold of others. We have a greater chance of success if we surround ourselves with successful people.

NOT EVERYTHING IS ABOUT YOU.

Give your time up for someone who needs it. There ARE people who actually need things more than you want them. Place yourself in someone else’s shoes for once. How can you do that if you don’t associate with anyone else? You can’t begin to learn about other people and their struggles if you don’t place yourself in their vicinity and position.

Solidarity is okay, until you look around at who you love and cherish memories with and you see an absolutely and utterly empty room. You can’t celebrate your life with yourself. You can’t love yourself the way someone else can. It doesn’t work like that. Life doesn’t work like that.

If we were meant to live alone we wouldn’t miss people. We wouldn’t feel little panging holes in our hearts when someone is gone from our lives. Our eyes wouldn’t sting with diamond tears when loved ones left for good. We wouldn’t be in denial when the one we thought loved us up and walked away. We feel all these things, so we are meant to be with people in our day-to-day lives. It’s so simple and obvious.


Let’s stop being oblivious, and let’s start soaking in all the relationships around us. Let’s start loving everyone and embracing the people that we associate with in our daily lives. Life is a beautiful, overwhelming thing; why not share it with someone? Fall in love, make friends, and hold family close. Never push someone away because you feel it will make yourself look better. It’s not fair to yourself, or the people around you.


Think about others, not just yourself.

xoxo,
Madeline

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